See this guy on the left? He definitely does not worry about what others think of him.
For the longest time, I felt as if I had to please everybody. This was a dear mistake?it is impossible to keep everyone satisfied.? I ended up being unsatisfied myself, and for what reason would I place my happiness before others? For years I could never understand why I let other come before myself. Trustfully, it was fear I admit.
We all have our reasons for worrying about what others think of us, but most of it comes from fear of something.
Are you afraid of people not liking you for who you are? Have this fear prevented you from doing something that you wanted to do, all because you were afraid of criticisms?
It?s okay to acknowledge this. After all, you can only fix something if you know that it?s a problem. And I don?t mean fixing whatever unfavorable attribute others may not like about you.
In fact, for those who do like you for who you are, here is something to ponder upon.
Fact 1:
Statistic shows that when you pass away, an average total of 70% of the people you already knew (friends and families) will show up to your funeral. Depending on the weather, it will play a huge factor as well.
Statistics have shown that when there is an unfavorable weather condition (rain, snow, hail), only 50% of those who were planning to come will decide to stay home at the last minute?all because of a weather.
It is also proven that 0% will come when there is a snowstorm or hurricane. This is because the obituary is closed. Not even they themselves would want to open this kind of life respecting silence one last time to you.
How much realization does that put into prospect about those that do like you, and those that do not? Simple answer: most people are too busy to care about you 99.99% of the time. The other .01% applies when you do something significantly good or bad.
Whether you want every single person to like or accept you for who you are, this is impossible. Even the most likable and lovable people have someone who do not like and love them.
Fact 2:
You and I are being judge at this very moment. I know it and now you know it.
I can already sense some readers saying how awful this article is. Not all of my posts are grade A+ writing quality. Maybe not a B either for some of them. Actually, I am starting to even wonder if any of my articles are worth reading? Oh well.
I can also assure you that I most likely have English professors who look down upon my writing techniques. But (there I go, using ?but? after a period?points deducted) how many actually would stress about it after a minute later? Maybe a minute is too soon, but how about a day after?
I?m willing to bet that most people who either grade, judge, critique or make opinions on anything will soon forget that they were once in the presence of doing so.
No one makes a judgment and starts to daydream about it the whole day. Doing so is uncannily inhuman and those people?s thought should not affect you.
Rather, it is the quality of those who care for you. These people should be the ones that matters the most. These people are probably in the 35% group that will come to your funeral while it is raining, snowing, or hailing. Pay your respect to them now by focusing more of your attention to them. They already have a good judgment of you, so focus your mind on that positive vibe.
With this in mind, it all comes down to how much you respect yourself. I may take a chance here and say that if you have read this far down, then you must have a want for changing your own outlook just as bad as I did.
This is the first step towards self improvement. The first thing to ask yourself is:
What do I want?
For the first time, it is all about you. What is it that you feel like doing? Remember that it is okay to be or do something different than what everybody else is doing. Anyone who does not approve of this does not matter to you.
In fact, at this point, what you do will be irrelevant to those who do not have your approval. It is those that do approve are those that are relevant.
You will always have people judging you. In order to do want you want to do, you must not base your action on what others think.
Although this may sound ironic, make responsible choices while doing what you want.
What is Stopping You?
There isn?t a physical force preventing you from doing what you want to do. Or at least I hope not, but that can always be gotten around too.
The only thing that is stopping you is a mental force. Something that can?t even be seen or felt by. It just goes to show you how much power a non-existence force has upon us.
But you also have one to fight back. It is your mind. (another points deducted for using ?but? in the first sentence)
Your mind is like a muscle. The more you train it, the bigger and more strength it gets. You train your mind the same way, minus the weight lifting part. Negative imaginations will be equivalent to the weights that needs lifting.
When you start thinking of doubts, you need to counteract it by thinking ?of course they will like it? or ?it will be the best thing?. It?s not a matter of them liking it or not, it?s the fact that you do not have this mental force stopping your physical actions.
Having positive affirmations is what allows you to do things that you want.
As powerful as your mental mind may be, it will not be influential enough to change everyone?s opinion.
If you feel as if you are important to do things on your own term, then you will stop allowing others to control your ways of doing. It?s that simple. Do what you like and stand up for what you believe in. It makes people respect you even more.
With these advice applied, I was able to begin living life on my own terms. It makes me stand out, feel better, and overall carefree?in a good way. Whether an English professor gives me a C or an F for my articles, I just don?t care. And neither should you (yes, I purposely started with an ?and?).
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